Another presidential election year filled with raunchy quips on Facebook

Whew!  Dear God.  I just had to stop reading the social media on filthy ol’ Facebook.  As comedians would say: Rough room.  Seems this election year stars another woman who dares run for Vice President.  And men, as well as their like-minded women folk, are spewing the same old filthy sexist and racist slang this ilk used on Facebook for eight long years against President Barack Obama and the 2016 presidential campaign with Hillary Clinton.  The one-two punch against Vice President nominee Kamala Harris includes: the w word, the h word, the c word, the s word, the fw combo, and the b word—the latter almost a description of pride nowadays among strong women who don’t give a damn about this profane sexist adjective.   

And when I wrote a response against Harris being called the w word, Facebook wouldn’t run it, cautioning my commentary did not meet its community standards.  MY commentary?  I repeated the same word that was offensive.  Why must women be offended every day reading the same old anti-female cuss words on the Facebook feed?  What 20-something Facebook Community Standards’ specialist is asleep at the wheel?  The feminist sisters call this the double standard, and man is it alive and kicking in 21st century America.  Anything to get Trump re-elected it seems.  In trying to get a put down to stick against Harris, Trump described her as a “man-woman.”  This is the best he’s got?  This depiction maybe because she wears pantsuits?  Then my mother would be called a man-woman, too, because that’s exactly what she wore throughout the 1970s as an elementary school teacher.    

Again, a brown-hued American is questioned about her birthright to run for President and be on the ticket as VP.  This time they are going after her mother, born in India.  Let me remind everyone that Trump’s white mother was not born in America.  Key word is white, or ruddy. Either looks just fine to American racists.

What’s in a word?

Why am I, a staunch supporter of free speech, against filthy anti-women sex slang smeared all over Facebook and no doubt the internet?  After all, I was a newspaper reporter and learned the art of colorful cussing, though usually when mad at the computer and never ever in print. But somehow, for some reason, I’ve yet to refer to any female in the common sex slang used by inarticulate men.  What is my hang up?  Why don’t I just join the Facebook crowd and call women who run for U.S. president the h word and w word and worst of all the c word?  Am I a prude?  No, that’s not it.

But there is something to language and profanity.  Remember when profanity was not only illegal in public (it still is yet not on Facebook), as kids we’d get a slap across the face or our mouths washed out with soap, usually by the hands of our mothers?  That’s because language is important.  And filthy language used all the time by millions of people on social media, especially during every presidential election year in 21st century America, brings down the human spirit.  We are depressed enough without having to endure the raunchiest profanity that only involves women and sex.

The w word, the h word, the s word, the fw combo, the c word—these are rapist words.  This is exactly how men with psychological problems against women feel and why they rape and continue to rape and eventually murder until caught, imprisoned or shot by police. 

In America, a woman or girl is raped every two minutes.  Every single day.  More than 700,000 reported rapes a year.  Half of the perpetrators are known to the victim; half are unknown.  So America, we have a problem, at least to half the population.  The problem is our culture that allows men to brag about sexual conquests and get elected U.S. President while any American woman who runs for the same office is verbally and emotionally assaulted by millions of men and women on social media.  Like it or not, those very few women who dare to run for President or VP represent all American women, really the entire gender.  The attacks are not against one female candidate but all of us.  Anti-women sex slang is beyond disconcerting, rude, inappropriate, stupid and by now overdone and just not funny.  This sort of language is an assault of the female psyche—which is the real intent of rape.

Yin Yang

Right here I was gonna insert a quote from the Book of Thomas, part of the ancient Gnostic Gospels, and muse on ideals spoken by JC Himself, about how we as spiritual beings must love, appreciate, recognize and honor our dual nature, the feminine and the masculine, and in so doing become whole human beings.

Then I thought, you know, you guys have had decades now to figure out women are not just sex objects, were born with intelligence, are capable of education and careers, can start and run corporations—and all that having been proven, surely women could run the U.S. government if ever elected President or Vice President.

America has a way of moving forward technologically, like with computers and rapid-fire social media posts, but not so fast socially and culturally.  Just mentioning the Book of Thomas closes the minds of many Christians here, some who type and send that filth about Kamala Harris, Hillary Clinton and President Obama.  Look, if you have a problem with the candidate or the elected official, just say what your problem is.  It would be refreshing if anyone on Facebook would comment on specific policies and proposals, that have been proven factual, which cause your disdain for a candidate.  Enough of the w word and c word and n word all year long until the election … and, oh, if her side wins the presidency?!  With men the world over bashing female consciousness to cyber death, the internet would simply explode into nonexistence.  Maybe that would be for the best, I mean for humankind.

My concern, Facebook and sexist Americans, is the frequent use of profanity denigrating females will continue to shame our country and our culture but also influence immature readers, particularly young males.  I wonder if everything people write on Facebook is spoken in the home, at work, and among family with kids and elderly relatives.  Would the language be spoken in church?  Why not?  Writing online has given many people the impression they can say whatever they want, right or wrong, profound or profane, and they don’t give a damn who sees it.  Right.  Everybody sees what’s online and will see it in the future, from earth below to heaven above.

Seeing the light from Chicken Little’s pandemic news coverage

I get it now.  The epiphany: America’s problem with the media.  The disbelief.  The cynicism.  The skepticism.  The uncertainty of what is the truth, just what is truth.  The obsession with calling out fake news at every breath.

I, perhaps news media’s biggest advocate, get it now because the national cable news networks have run the pandemic into the ground.  Coverage 24/7 of nothing but the coronavirus and the president’s handling of the most critical health and dire economic situation of our lifetimes ….  People, you’re absolutely right.  The cable guys have exhausted us with ‘sky is falling’ nonstop coverage, such as CNN’s perpetual posted daily updated numbers of cases and deaths in the U.S. and comparably the world.  And the virus may just be getting started.  Can you imagine the same screaming hyper in-your-face coverage of COVID-19 a year from now?

Broadcast news is a relatively new journalism development, starting back in radio days of the early 20th century.  Let us return to those glorious years of Big Band music, soap operas, comedians, funny shows and serial dramas with organ-accompanied cliffhangers, plus old-time gospel preachin’ and foot-stompin’ bluegrass.  Radio was vaudeville in a box.  News was the last thing on their minds, from listeners to producers.  And can you blame ’em?  Can you imagine covering The Great Depression on 1930s’ radio like today’s cable news has brought us the latest pandemic:

The Great Depression Year Three!  Mr. and Mrs. America, this is Reid Luger bringing you and your red-white-and-true-blue family the latest in our nation’s complete economic collapse.  Millions of families with little ones in tow roam town to town, state to state, in hopes of work and food, humbly asking our Lord for their daily bread.  Will their prayers continue to go unanswered?!

America’s unemployed make up a quarter of all able-bodied men in their prime working years.  The rich man continues to lose big, but his loss trickles down to the little guy, many whose families had nothing to begin with.  Homesteads across the country wear foreclosure signs like a necklace, placed there by banks as money itself remains our scarcest commodity.  American families pray in cathedrals along crowded city sidewalks or gathered in humble country churches nestled in the secluded wild wood.

Where is God?  What must we do to get America back on track, to supply coal into our country’s economic engine?  Oh, the humanity!!

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Ladies and germs

Yes, in the days of yesteryear, news was maybe five minutes a day.  Newsmen didn’t talk unless they had something NEW to report.  There’s a novel idea.

Cable news went wrong in several ways.  One is not realizing there isn’t that much new news to begin with.  Then allowing most of the airtime to be opinions, talking heads instead of any new news, just a lot of talk over old news.  This makes up the entire 24-hour period.  Go to sleep already! 

But where 24-hour news really did itself in is not considering the psychology of the human species.  Humans, no matter how intelligent or patriotic, can ONLY TAKE SO MUCH.  It may be more biology than psychology or sociology.  Constant doom and gloom are a turn off, man.

And how is cable news even able to stay on the air?  Who is watching this stuff?  More importantly, who is buying the stuff from the sponsors?  Who has the money?  Aren’t tens of millions of Americans unemployed, soon to lose their homes and apartments?  That statistic can’t be wrong.

I understand the contempt for the news now.  I don’t like that the American people have become so cynical, disbelieving anything and everything reported in the news and distrustful of journalists.  Free press is still written in the Constitution, but it seems the American people have erroneously learned to accept this means journalists can say whatever they want.  That was never the intention of the Framers.  They thought a democratic government could not function if the people do not believe what they read, and now hear and see, in the news. 

So, we’ve come to this.  A U.S. President who bellows “fake news” when referring to CNN, The New York Times, MSNBC, The Washington Post and all other news outlets who pride themselves in digging for and reporting ONLY the truth.  And we have a nation of citizens who not only disbelieve the news but are unabashedly devoted to Fox News, known in journalism and legal circles to play fast and loose with the facts.  Fox News’ coverage of President Trump, however, according to a recent media study, actually presents equally pro and con stories, 50/50, while all the other national media are soundly against this president.  Not only are the mainstream news obviously leaning against Trump, from the night he was elected, the reporters often snarl and editorialize when reporting on the latest Trumpisms.  They roll their eyes, cock their head to one side, and use vocal inflection a blind person could discern as negative and unfavorable of the president.

Reporters, whether writers or broadcasters, are never to let on like they are for or against the subjects they cover.  They can grin and bear it and write a book when this part of their career is over.  Then they can have their own news talk show and editorialize and pontificate about politics and society.  But see, humans don’t generally think like reporters.  They listen to broadcast news, even stick to one news channel for decades, and they do likewise when surfing the ’net for shared opinions and news presenters.  This is the human condition.  It is bigger than journalism, Fox News, fake news, CNN and “Morning Joe.”  People are busy.  Right now, humans are scared.  The news should not peddle fear.  The news should be just the facts.  And as the human masses don’t have the wherewithal to turn off the news, which is mostly opinion pulled left or right, it would be beneficial for media networks to resort to the standard variety show era featuring more entertainment in the performing arts than repeated hard news.  Just think of how many lives truly were saved in the 1930s because of radio with its lively, optimistic, engaging and consistent format with news important but not the main event.  Americans already knew they were in a deep depression.  They didn’t need to be reminded of it every hour of every day and night.

Sometimes it takes a pandemic to change us for the better

I know what y’all been thinking: “Why, God, whyeeeee!?!”  We’ve lived with this pandemic for close to a year now with really no quick fix in sight, though surely a viable solution in the future.  But by the look of things, we won’t hear the end of COVID-19 till Christmas 2022; if we’re good, maybe 2021.  Attempts at trying to prevent the spread of the novel coronavirus have made us: virtually lose our jobs or figure out a way to work at home, file for unemployment along with tens of millions of other people, stay away from crowds including friends and family, wear stuffy masks, constantly wash our hands, and for parents with school-age children oversee their coursework and studies at home because schools are closed, too.  And it looks like the end of the last school year will continue into the new school year.  No!  God, no!!!

If you’re like me, you may very well have questioned God about all this.  Religions may warn us to never question God about our deepest fears and concerns, just accept whatever happens in life and roll with the punches—like folks did in Europe during the Black Plague.  I say God, of all living beings, wants to know exactly what’s on our minds, especially our fears and most sincere goals and aspirations.  And maybe we’ll get answers, as the old-time gospel song assures us, ‘by and by.’ 

But we like answers now.  Americans like answers right NOW.  There has got to be some reason for burdening our planet with a pandemic.  Everything seemed to be going so well, well mostly for the Wall Street crowd.  Our president boasted ad nauseum we had the greatest economy in the world ever.  Americans young and old, frugal and gambler, were blowing and going: movies, bars, concerts, sports, restaurants, schools, travel, conventions, fairs, commerce, investments, home buying & selling, booming construction, highway expansions, road improvements, even higher education and climbing the ladder to success.  Happy days were here again!  And then … suddenly … the fall.  Separating us from God’s good graces.

How are the mighty fallen!

Pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.

Many folks naturally turn to the spiritual when the economic bottom falls through.  Oil below $0 a barrel and then into negative numbers?  Some economists have flat out projected the ‘d’ word.  With 30 to 45 million Americans unemployed, impacting four times that number when families are factored in, singing “We’re in the Money” is no longer cute. We haven’t begun to see the desperation captured in 1930s’ black and white photos of destitute American families living in their wagons or jalopies, camping in tents, squatting on land, aimlessly roaming town to town for day labor.

We have seen the food lines on TV, relatively nice cars and SUVs forming long lines for miles and miles with families inside waiting hours and even up to half a day for a box of weekly foodstuffs.  On TV we’ve seen similar miles of cars with people getting the corona test.  What will our nation, and the streets, look like when landlords, banks and mortgage companies demand payment?  What will become of us when the bills are past due for months or a year?  None of us good people ever want to be deadbeats.  But without work, 99 percent of us have no money.  Money is security in this country, bub.  We all know the score.  Gotta pay to play.  That has been the American way.

Angels in America

But wait.  What if God is trying to turn our nation around?  What if the only way to do that is an economic collapse caused by a lingering pandemic?  Hard times often bring people to call on God, as another gospel song laments: Where could I go but to the Lord?  God is, like, all any of us have at this point.

So, let us ponder our nation’s true spiritual self.  Hasn’t been too good, has it?  Money has been the reason for anything and everything in the U.S.  And the current occupant of the White House, our national leader, is the epitome of “Money, money, money, money.  Money!”  Americans celebrate the self-made millionaire, the lucky few with the magic formula and timing to build a better mouse trap, offer people what they really want—entertainment, business, products, whatever.  And many would say this national thinking, instilled breeding really, is what makes America great.

That is not what makes America great.  That is not what makes any nation great past, present or future.  Being the richest nation on earth and perhaps in the history of the world is not what makes America great.  Our love of money, our worship of and work toward financial gain and economic freedom, is not what makes Americans great.  How can it possibly be?  It is not even a spiritual teaching.  In fact, we know darn well it’s the opposite of Christian teachings: The love of money is the root of all evil.

That’s the America I know and experience every day, perhaps till my dying breath.  You gotta pay to play.  You gotta have money, and a lot of it, to live in this country.

The United States is supposed to be not only First World but the land of abundance and cutting-edge technological advancements.  Yet the pandemic caught us sorely lacking.  Compared internationally, we’re stupid and foolish.  Our federal unpreparedness including the cut and slashed federal pandemic response division and budget—that’s what caused and will continue to cause all the deaths.  Somehow this land of plenty had no ventilators, not enough ventilators, along with poorly stocked and limited healthcare personal protection gear—masks and body suits which need to be trashed after each and every patient is checked out.  And still not near the ample supply of tests needed to get a grip on the pandemic.

But the real reason this nation of ours has failed its sick people, who should not have had to die, is the lack of hospitals which have been closing nationwide as failed businesses for decades.  Hospitals should never be in the business of business.  They exist to ensure a community’s health and well-being.  What were we thinking just sitting back and saying nothing as rural hospitals and then all hospitals kept closing everywhere in America?

If the pandemic, which we haven’t had as severe as 1918 when none of us were alive save one or two readers, is a natural occurrence, part of life on the planet, well our federal government should have been on top of the situation, the possible eventuality, prepared with state-of-the-art equipment and most of all knowledge.  Instead, we’ve come across as worse than all those socialist and communist countries we love to decry and compare (with $$ in our eyes and on our lips).  Money is not evil, just loving it more than humanity is.

The pandemic and all our economic upheaval and emotional pouting is pretty much what God expects of us, now doesn’t He or She?  Here in the 21st century, we were pretty smug, certain to cure a bug like we have before with all the other pandemics like swine flu and H1N1.  We even joked about how every year, the media and medical authorities warn us of a new exotic pandemic, usually variations of flu.  Now it’s different because we didn’t want to deal with it.  It spread until it engulfed and overwhelmed the nation as we argue over masks and reopening the schools, usually the largest employer in most communities.

In coming months, as no cure or vaccine will wipe the pandemic off the planet yet, we’ll remember our lives and ourselves for what we were, what we have been, and what now we have to be and ought to be in the future.  Let’s face it, as a nation we’ve been forced to change the way we do ‘business’ … because money does not grow on trees, bills can’t be paid if we have no jobs, and tens of millions of inadvertently unemployed Americans and their families will either be kicked out onto the streets or … through the kindness of strangers that are landlords and mortgage bankers, America can start practicing that religion we always bring up, the one that says: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Money is not the bottom line.  The bottom line is: Live and let live.    

Pandemic gives Americans world travel blues

The pandemic continues to disappoint and ruin plans in so many ways, mostly not health related.  Along with job loss; reduced income or no income; no health insurance; homelessness; online work and online schooling; postponed or canceled surgeries and specialized physician check ups; and hundreds of state and county fairs, annual conventions, entertainment and concert tours along with New York’s Broadway season canceled for the year—Europe has banned travelers from the U.S.  Just when my husband and I were contemplating a trip to Austria, Europe won’t have us.  The U.S. has done such a poor job of controlling the virus.  And we’re from Texas, an international laughingstock due to crowded bars and partiers sans masks and social distancing.  We of all Americans will not be permitted entry into Europe.

Being a Texas native, I just assumed the virus would not survive our hot weather, which is at least half the year.  But I was wrong.  I also thought the airline industry could use the business.  Remembering the aftermath of 9/11, I wanted to support the critically vital yet economically crippled industry.  Instead, this year I only have memories of traveling the world.  And here they are!

India January 2013

Namaste, y’all!  Of all the places in the world, India was the one country I most wanted to see.  Not sure why, other than I’m a big Beatles’ fan and they spent time in India, and George Harrison, my favorite Beatle, was deeply influenced by the country and Eastern religion.  So, OM and peace. 

While working on a master’s degree in liberal studies, a professor was forming a Study Abroad course to India.  ‘Yeah, right. Like I’m going to India,’ I thought sarcastically to myself.  But … the words that flowed from my mouth were: “I always wanted to go to India!”  I studied the proposal, noting January is the best time to go there, and I would be with colleagues and a professional tour guide.  Then I researched traveling to India and found disconcerting points to consider.  At the time, polio and many other diseases were still communicable; Western women are considered promiscuous and may be hit on or attacked; beggars should be ignored; tourists should not wear jewelry; travelers are advised to avoid street food, tap water, ice and even fresh fruits and vegetables due to possible contamination.  Tourists are cautioned to brush teeth with bottled water.  A travel nurse advised a series of vaccines including Hepatitis A & B, Tetanus, Typhoid and rabies. Monkeys, dogs and other animals freely roam India and potentially can bite.

Undaunted, however, I signed up for the Multicultural Teambuilding Course: Study Abroad India!  The flight was 14 hours, landing in Dubai briefly to hop a connecting flight to Indira Gandhi International Airport in New Delhi, India.  Meeting our tour guide and with luggage in hand, our group walked out of the airport and into throngs of somber Indians awaiting arrival of loved ones.  The evening air smelled of ancient mold and modern chemicals.  My eyes burned the entire trip.  The tour bus would provide cold bottled water daily.  We sped off to our hotel, the driver occasionally honking along with many others winding through the busy crowded highways and busted streets.  Before entrance into the hotel, our luggage was scanned through an outdoor conveyer belt.  Meanwhile, we Americans were greeted by a female manager dressed in a customary sari.  She summarily painted a small single red dot on our foreheads, above and between the brows. 

During the mornings, we attended lectures about India and the international business world then spent afternoons touring.  The adventure was through northern India’s Golden Triangle: New Delhi, Agra and Jaipur.  The morning breakfast buffet was always an exotic assortment of foods, each labeled with long complex words too hard to remember or pronounce.  For lunch and dinner, I stuck with naan bread and tofu with curry sauce, a vegetarian diet.  By the last lecture, we learned that India’s billion people celebrate millions of gods by lots of festivals featuring a wide array of foods.  We witnessed a couple of large weddings, complete with painted elephants and Bollywood music.

While traveling India, I found the people to be warm, smiling and cordial, always greeting with prayer hands and a bow while saying “Namaste,” a Sanskrit word that means “God in me sees God in you.”  And they expected you to repeat the customary greeting back to them, which I did.  The many tourist sites we visited, however, were met upfront with a crowd of beggars, male teens who could not walk because they had polio or other crippling deformities.  With their skinny legs folded, they held their hands in back on the ground and pushed their torsos forward, stopping by balancing one hand in back and the other outstretched while they asked, “To give, ma’am?  To give?”  This was heartbreaking.  In fact, in New Delhi hundreds of small short tents are set up right beside the highways.  They are the housing for migrant workers who maintain a centuries-old tradition of living in tents to move where there is work.  In the early morning hours, these groups warmed themselves around small fires on the side of busy streets.

India’s Taj Mahal in Agra was the most breathtaking vision.  It was made with crystals and appears to glow from afar.  The historic intricately designed white mosque is guarded with armed police, and pictures are forbidden inside the tomb, plus visitors must slip a pair of booties over shoes which are not permitted inside a mosque tomb.

People from around the world admiring the Taj
Mahal, Agra, India, January 2013
Cobras flounce to snake charmers, Jaipur, India
January 2013

Lasting Impressions: The poverty.  We Americans are so blessed beyond measure.  Masses of people who appear to be ill.  Blue skies yet burning eyes.  Overcrowded and littered streets with bustling vehicles and the occasional lone dog walking alongside traffic, even curling up to sleep.  Men urinating on the streets.  Monkeys running and jumping shrub to shrub.  Squatters, toilets at ancient tourist sites.  Colorfully decorated elephants walking down mountains, guided to weddings in the cities.  Business vehicles painted to personify female gods.  Business buildings with large statues of Ganesh or a mural of a blue Krishna.  The symbol for OM and swastikas everywhere.  Camels hitched to low trailers loaded with cargo, slowly clopping along busy streets beside speeding automobiles, small motorcycles and Tuk Tuk taxis.  The smell of Ylang Ylang.  The white pentagon temple celebrating all five world religions: Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Christianity and Islam.  The serenity of India’s people as well as animals.  Tears when first seeing the Taj Mahal.  Tears and prayers for the beggars.

 England July 2013

My lucky year for world travel continued with an opportunity for a required graduate writing course: historic fiction that featured a Study Abroad course to World War II sites in England and France!  The nonstop flight was only nine hours.  We arrived at London’s Heathrow Airport in the early morning and met Yvonne, our tour guide.  Her parents met during the war, one French, the other British.  She spoke both languages.  Outside the airport were hundreds of bicycles on racks.  Our travel bus took us briskly through a two-lane highway with heavily wooded terrain, thick tall trees abutting pavement on both sides.  Trying to look ahead made me drowsy.  Then there were the roundabouts, felt at every intersection.  Ohhh.  Ohhh.  Ohhh.  Our first stop was Oxford: a fairy tale village where people still live in thatched-roof cottages that surround the world renown university along with churches and graves dating back to the 10th century.  The early morning air in July was cool bliss.  The sun came out around 4 a.m. and set after 10 p.m.  Standing beneath a shade tree was noticeably cooler, something I’ve yet to experience all my summers in Texas.

St. Thomas the Martyr, 12th century church,
Oxford, England, July 2013
Gardner sculpting shrubs, Blenheim Palace, Woodstock, Oxfordshire, England

London is a world-class city compared to picturesque rural Oxford yet charming with tall Victorian buildings renovated for modern business and apartments.  We attended outdoor theatre at The Globe, sipped wine while walking along the Thames River, and toured Winston Churchill’s war bunker.     

Then a fellow Beatles’ fan and I walked to Abbey Road to see the area of the famous studio where the Beatles recorded their albums.  First, we ventured into London’s complex subway system called The Tubes then walked a few blocks to Abbey Road.  At the time, the entire area in front of the studio entrance was pasted with lots of graffiti, thanking the Beatles for their music and many endearing sentiments to John Lennon.  Fans had written messages on every section of concrete walls, bricks, cement block posts and even iron rods on the gates.  The studio sets quite a way from the graffitied entrance.  The graffiti was mind boggling and then to think the government allowed it.  Lots of tourists, individually and in groups of four, continuously stopped traffic for photos while walking the exact spot as the Beatles did for the cover of Abbey Road—including me.

Fan graffiti to the Beatles, Abbey Road Studio entrance,
London, England, July 2013

Lasting Impressions:  Flower boxes outside every window house, apartment and business.  Commerce closing early evening, leaving open only the pubs and night venues.  No convenience stores.  Free museums.  Fish & chips served with peas.  Baked beans for breakfast.  Feeling completely at home, no doubt from ancestral DNA.  Walking alone in Oxford at night and feeling safe.  All the Beatle fans from around the world hanging out along Abbey Road.  British charm.

We left England via the ‘Chunnel,’ the massive train system that crosses the English Channel to northern France and includes deep underwater sections.

France July 2013

We stayed in the village of Bayeux, where businesses and apartments still fly weathered flags representing WWII Allied Nations. At dusk we walked along cobbled roads and slender streets deep into the town center to find restaurants. The next day we visited the Museum of the Battle of Normandy, with none of us leaving with a dry eye.  We drove through the French countryside and ate baggette sandwiches at a seaside amusement park. Then we walked the beaches of Normandy where today children play freely. Several of us collected sand from the beach. Later we toured the Normandy American Cemetery—where gusts of warm ocean breeze caressed each of us standing together high upon the cliffs and slowing turning to view the cemetery’s somber panorama.  Graves are divided by U.S. state and eternally guarded by trees from the deceased’s specific home.

We left for Paris, caught a light summer rain, and crossed the Seine River that snakes through the city.  Unfortunately, at the last minute we were bounced from a hotel adjacent to the Eiffel Tower.  Instead, we drove right past the massive iron structure and continued clear across the city to a European micro motel.

Bayeux, Normandy, France, July 2013
Children playing on the beaches of Normandy

Lasting Impressions: (Paris smells like urine.  Everywhere.)  The French prefer you to speak French.  People standing very close to each other in lines.  Body funk, theirs not mine.  Hot hotel rooms. Political graffiti throughout Paris on statues, steps, buildings, park benches.  Billboards and music videos with topless women.  Intimidated by language and an unfamiliar and unfriendly city.    

Ireland July 2017

Hoping to spot a wee fairy or sprite, and because I learned my ancestral DNA is one quarter Irish, I joined a tour group to southern Ireland along the western Atlantic coast.  Sites included the community of Kerry where the bustling downtown area featured a middle school band playing American pop tunes.  We ate at a pub and sang along with the nightly entertainer, a male singer with an Irish brogue who accompanied himself on acoustic guitar and included a couple of American songs by John Denver.  We drove 100-plus miles along the Ring of Kerry, riding up through rugged mountains so high the clouds shadowed the terrain.  The sites were rugged slate cliffs, cottages, and the Atlantic coast.  On to the Cliffs of Moher, we walked up steep slippery slate against strong winds and mist.  An umbrella is quickly ruined and simply out of place in Ireland. From the top of the cliffs, the view was thrilling combined with the feel and the smell of the sea crashing onto the cliffs.  Later we toured ancient portals, areas marked and preserved by the government.  The portals were thought to have been used by the ancient Irish many centuries ago to step into another dimension to seek guidance through life.

Accordionist at the Cliffs of Moher, Ireland, July
2017. Note sea castle in background.

One night we dined inside an early medieval castle for a banquet whereby our only utensil was a knife.  The following day, we roamed around castle ruins on the way to Dublin.   In the city we saw the Book of Kells at Trinity College.  The book produced by monks dates back at least 800 years and tells the story of Jesus mixed with Celtic legends, beliefs and symbols.  On my own, I toured the Whiskey Museum, interestingly located across from the college.  I learned whiskey is derived from an Irish word that means “water of life.”  At the tour’s end, we tasted four whiskeys.  The taste is … not for me.  The tour concluded with dinner and a live performance called Celtic Nights featuring authentic dancing to acoustic instruments, notably wooden spoons.

Torc Waterfall, Killarney National Park, Ireland
2017
Ancient spiritual portal, Ireland
countryside

Lasting Impressions

The Emerald Isle, green foliage everywhere.  Their love of music; even the green flag carries a harp.  A folk musician at every stop: guitar, banjo, accordion.  Playing along on an enormous community drum. The Irish love of American pop music; even a taxi driver sang along to 1970s pop songs from his radio.  Fairy trees. Hearty meals (thick seafood soup with rustic Irish bread).  Dublin’s Poetry Corner and the city’s marquee celebrating the country’s famous music entertainers and writers.  Medieval Mead (honey wine).  The ever-changing weather.  Land of red heads.  No snakes.  St. Patrick’s encircled Christian cross everywhere.

Blank slate

She awoke.  Birds chirped joyously outside the hospital window.  She cleared her throat, dry after surgery, blinked to focus on white walls with pleasant art.  Her doctor was right.  She felt peaceful, content and happy after the memory implant was adjusted.  Celeste was overwhelmed with feelings of happiness.  She was in awe.  Her eyes welled with tears.  She found herself smiling.

“You ready to go home?” she heard her husband ask, feeling his hand cup hers.  “Home?” she asked.

“Remember?  Our house in the woods.  We call it Glendale,” Marc said, trying to coax her memory.

Yes, she remembered home.  She recalled her work as an American history teacher and research into race relations.  But then …  Nothing.

“I need to get home and continue my research,” she said as Marc waved a hand to cut her off.  “No, there will be none of that for a while.  That’s what ignited the implant.

“Remember?  The chip prevents certain recall,” he warned.  “Shhhh,” he lipped with a kiss on her head.

“What’s wrong with me?” Celeste asked.  “Why was I in the hospital?”

“The chip was malfunctioning,” Marc said.  “Made you have bad headaches.

“You don’t remember blacking out, all the nausea and severe pain?  Right here,” he said touching her forehead.

She then felt serene.  She was aware of her feelings.  In a few weeks after summer break, she would be ready to return to teaching.  Research into American history would have to wait.  It wasn’t worth the suffering and the day surgery to correct her memory implant.

They drove across the bridge into a bucolic landscape that greets arrivals to Glendale.  Celeste gazed into the vista, inhaling fresh earth, feeling the breeze of an unusually cool summer day, listening to birds and the dogs happy to greet them, searching the familiar terrain of blue sky and hills on the horizon.  Her senses were restored fully.  Vividly.  She would always want to remember this.

Bettie and Luna, rescue dogs of unknown lineage, jumped on her before she could get out of the SUV.  “Now get down,” Marc ordered the pets.  “It’s all right,” Celeste said, hugging each one.  “They love me.  Dogs always forgive and forget.”

Inside the house, Celeste walked to the study.  Papers and books were strewn across the rug.  The desk chair was toppled to the ground.  She straightened up the mess.  “What happened?” she asked Marc.  “I found you unconscious and called 9-1-1.  The paramedics took you to the hospital.  Knew just what to do, what was wrong.”

The memory implant was a high-tech solution to end human hatred that once had gripped the nation into war-like dissent.  Celeste understood that much.  But as she pursued research of American history and racism, reading and watching news accounts about social upheaval during the twentieth and twenty-first centuries, her mind was interrupted, short circuited.  It was the chip.  She could not force herself to study to memory the angry divisive era:

Statues toppled as racist relics, originally erected by the Daughters of the Confederacy to honor Southern war heroes in the American Civil War.  Police officers roughly apprehending African Americans, a few of the arrested even dying during the process.  Months of fiery protests against police brutality.  The names of deceased black people, most unarmed and more than one in their own home or on their property, chanted, printed on T-shirts and signs.  Graffiti.  The f word.  The looting from city to city.  Police cars ablaze.  Police and rioters assaulting each other.  The president nowhere to be seen, only heard, his monotone blaming states and cities where riots were bad and dozens of businesses destroyed.  He called on the military to take control, but military leaders refused, citing the Constitution does not allow them to fight their own people on their own land. 

Such violent protests would never occur again.  The chip was a brilliant solution. The ultimate.

If Celeste continued with the research, her memory chip would malfunction again.  Citizens have the chip in order to remove animosity, bigotry and hatred toward others.  This was proven long ago by anthropologists and brain science.  The chips embedded in the brain brought about a longstanding era of peace and tranquility along with productivity surpassing all previous economic times.  The chips simply made everyone live happily ever after. But a history teacher needs to study the past, and people need to know.

The headache came on strong.  She held onto the desk and saw a bouquet of flowers Marc had waiting for her.  She smiled and for a few lingering seconds inhaled every bloom, each with a unique fragrance, together a fresh heavenly scent that filled the room.

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Celeste and Marc ate protein bars and fruit in the breakfast nook.  Through open windows they watched backyard foliage and critters roam along with their playful dogs.  “Let’s go outside,” she said cheerily.  “No, it’s a little too cool.  I think you should stay indoors another day just to be on the safe side,” Marc advised.

“I know,” she thought aloud.  “Let’s invite the Clarks and Molinas to our house for a cook- out.”

“If that’s what you’d like, I’ll arrange it,” Marc said then sent texts to the two couples.  “How about tonight or tomorrow?”

“Tomorrow’s fine.  Gives them a little time.  None of us are working this summer session,” Celeste said.

Marc kissed her goodbye, reminding her to take it easy and put away the research project.  She smiled obediently, sipping a cup of coffee.  After he’d left, she watched the two dogs, how they got along but sometime fought each other for a fresh nut or grub worm uncovered in the yard.  The fight broke out, sometimes lasting a minute, usually just a couple of seconds.  No harm done.  They learned to get along.  Celeste wondered why humans needed the memory implant.  Then her mind wondered to more pleasant thoughts.  She had a menu to plan for the barbecue.

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She found herself in the office again, not sure how she arrived.  Did she go shopping?  Yes.  Where’s the food?  In the fridge.  Did she black out?  Her head throbbed.  This time inhaling flowers didn’t soothe the pain.  Her internet device was set to a city protest in the summer of 2020.  Signs read “Abolish the police,” “End racism,” “Defund the police,” “Black Lives Matter.”  She had typed comments from the protesters expressing the reason for their anger.  She reread the research she had prepared …

“Honey!  Wake up,” Marc told her, holding his wife on the floor, patting her face.

“Why’d you start researching again?  You knew this could happen,” he scolded.

“My head hurts so bad!  I’m bleeding!” Celeste said, realizing the blood came from her nose and ears.  “What’s happening to me?”

Marc lifted her body and rushed to the doctor.

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The light was bright in her eyes.  “What’s going on?” Celeste asked Dr. Dory.  He clicked a small light on and off in her pupils.  “Dr. Landon, dear, I wish you would understand the purpose of the chip is to prevent unpleasant memories,” he told her.

 She knew.  No one is to read or watch or listen to any work about racism in this country.

“They’re not memories,” Celeste told him, “not my memories or none of ours.  What I’ve been studying are facts, history.  Our nation’s history.  It’s important to know.”

“Why would you want to stir up past controversies that tore our nation apart?” he asked.  “The implant took away all that pain, ill will and bad feelings we humans possess deep within our reptilian brain and even to the frontal lobe.

“We cannot help but be prejudiced and bigoted against people who do not look like us.  This nation tried for close to 300 years.  All that was proven was everyone is prejudiced.  And because of that, we cannot be fair, just and kind.  It would take thousands of years for every human to rise above our inclinations when it comes to racism.”

“No, I don’t think that is true,” Celeste countered.

“What you think does not matter,” the doctor replied.  “The chip solved a host of social problems, deadly and abusive encounters that occurred every single day in this country.  Crime was reduced by 95 percent thanks to the chip.  Now you must stop researching racism.  There is no need to dig into a healed wound, miraculously healed by the memory chip.”

Celeste inhaled deeply and stood up, wobbly but determined to say her piece.  The doctor warned her chip was still unconnected.

“Listen to me,” she said.  “People who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.  Remember?  First certain books were banned as racist, then movies, music, then free speech and eventually free thought.  We are living in a society of … morons.”

She slapped her hand over her mouth, realizing the fear of her words.  The doctor grabbed her arm for an injection.  “Please,” she cried then begged, “people need to know the truth, our truth, our past.  Life is about righting the wrongs of the past.  First, we have to know those wrongs and feel for everyone.  We have to understand those who lived before us.”

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The cell was dark and cold.  Celeste hugged her body as her teeth chattered.  “Where am I?” she called out.

“Be quiet,” a woman nearby whispered.

“Are we in jail?”

“Detention.  Until our chips work right.”

“Why are you here?”   

“I was researching my family tree to find plantations where they worked in the 1800s.”

“You’re African American?”

“Sure.  You’re white?”

“Yes, does that matter to you?”

“No.  Does my race matter to you?”

“Of course not.  We’ve got to get out of here while our minds are free and clear.”

A small paper note glided on the floor of Celeste’s cell.  She read the plan by her neighbor, Lauren.  A hole was already prepared beneath their adjoining wall.  Celeste lifted a floor tile.  The hole was small and dark.  “I’m going now.”

“I’m way ahead of you,” Lauren whispered.

The women scurried through the underground sewer toward the light of a full moon.  They crawled out into a creek bed, wiped off their jumpsuits and smiled, running quietly into the woods.

“Where should we go?” Lauren asked.

Feeling pain free from a restored soul, Celeste replied, “I don’t know.”

Police under the gun for cell cam video of arrests gone deadly

Watching the initial protests over the death of George Floyd by police, a revolting real-life scene brought to us by smart phone videos, I turned to social media and wrote an adage about myself: Still back the Blue.  That’s because there are a half million police officers in America, and their jobs are not easy even for the well trained.  And I wrote Still Back the Blue because just a few years ago, lest we forget, Dallas police officers were gunned down by a sniper during a Black Lives Matter rally, a national shock that brought President Barack Obama to the city to eulogize the slain officers at the nationally televised funeral.

When I was a news reporter, the cop shop featured somber yet approachable police chiefs and sheriffs and was a routine beat for stories on crime, criminal activity and the occasional homicide investigation.  Then with a career change to public school teacher, I found again myself befriending the police, a visible presence on practically every campus.  Reporters, teachers and police work with the same folks.  This is a statement not meant to be insulting.  Crime occurs a lot in poor neighborhoods where nonwhite disenfranchised families are perpetual victims.  A professional, therefore, working within poor communities must convey a disposition of kindness, compassion with a calm level head.

That is not the professionalism captured by cell cam video of a policeman holding his knee over the neck of Mr. Floyd, who police apprehended for allegedly trying to pass a fake bill at a Minneapolis convenience store.  Upon seeing the viral video, our nation held its collective breath along with Mr. Floyd as the scene lasted more than eight minutes, and the handcuffed suspect on his belly told law officers he could not breathe.  Autopsies report Mr. Floyd died not from a cracked windpipe—which emotionally is what we saw—but from a heart attack and/or asphyxiation brought on by pressure applied to his neck.  But no one can wipe away the imagery witnessed via cell cam: a white officer holding his knee on a black man, already under arrest and handcuffed, until he died.  We also saw three other policemen standing at the scene and doing nothing to stop the unjustified deadly arrest.  The live video did capture nearby citizens warning officers that Mr. Floyd can’t breathe.  Then it appears he died right before our eyes.

The past two weeks of angry protests in U.S. cities and around the world against deadly police brutality specifically involving African Americans (and even the recent unjustified shooting death by former and wannabe cops) have drawn together tens of millions of people.  Protest signs read “Stop Police Brutality.”  Agree.  “Stop racism.”  Agree.  “Abolish the Police.”  Can’t agree with that.  And “Defund the Police.”  Wha?  Protesters are up in arms over not one, not two, not three, not four, not five … but in the past few years too-many-to-count deadly police apprehensions of and encounters with unarmed African Americans—some caught on phone cameras by citizens.

What’s going on?

Anyone can research statistics on police use of deadly force.  They are kept by the FBI and more recently by The Washington Post.  The Post’s report is called Fatal Force and shows that 1,028 people were shot and killed by police in 2019.  About the same number of people have been killed by police in the U.S. every year since 2015 when the Post started collecting data.  Almost half of police shootings were of white people, a fifth were Hispanic, and a third (30 percent) were blacks.

However, the report finds blacks are shot and killed disproportionately than whites considering racial demographics (more whites than blacks, still a minority in most cities and in our nation’s total population).  Since 2015, the total number of whites killed by police was 2,416 (population 197 million) while 1,265 blacks (population 42 million) were killed.  The report also noted 889 Hispanics and 797 other/unknown race/ethnicity were killed in police shootings.  About 20 percent of those shot by police had serious mental illnesses.  Most alarming, police body cameras were not worn or were unavailable on most of the shootings, according to Fatal Force.

Of those shot and killed by police, 321 were unarmed.  More than 3,000 of the deceased had a gun.  Some had toy guns: 180.  Most killed by police were men (5,130) and 235 women.  The statistic is low for those shot while fleeing the police, but 3,375 were not fleeing officers.  This may point to another problem for the police.

Last year was the deadliest for police shootings since statistics were recorded by the newspaper.  Still, each year marked close to 1,000 police shooting deaths.  So far in 2020, the figure is 429.

Standing trial

On the flip side, police killed in the line of duty in 2019 was 89: half by criminals during a crime.  In 2018, the figure was 144.  In one year, 64 officers were shot and killed and an additional 21 were killed by ambush.  The statistics for police killed in the line of duty are: 164 in 2015; 171 in 2016; 152 in 2017; and 150 in 2018.  

Police arrest ten million people a year.  Does that cast perspective on what’s going on?  In dealing with crime, police are not encountering the most upstanding citizens.  Let us not forget that the police deal with criminals.  They expect to deal with people who break the law.

But ten million arrests, and less than one percent deaths, should show that 99 percent of police do their jobs well instead of the opposite.  They protect and serve the good citizens and try to catch the bad guy.  We pay them to do this because otherwise each of us would be left with taking the time to stalk and investigate someone who may or may not have caused a crime against us.  Every one of us cannot play cops with no training and assume we’ll remain calm when we want to impose our own justice and shoot to kill.

There are close to 687,000 law officers, and the figure is down quite a bit from just a few years ago.  The racial makeup of our nation’s police force is 77 percent white and 13 percent black.  By city, the figures, from 2013, were:

Los Angeles: white 35 percent, black 11 percent, Hispanic 43 percent

Dallas: white 54 percent, black 25 percent, Hispanic 18 percent

Houston: white 45 percent, black 23 percent, Hispanic 25 percent

New York: white 52 percent, black 16 percent, Hispanic 26 percent

New Orleans: white 38 percent, black 58 percent, Hispanic 2 percent

Chicago: white 52 percent, black 25 percent, Hispanic 19 percent

Baltimore: white 50 percent, black 40 percent, Hispanic 7 percent

Philadelphia: white 57 percent, black 33 percent, Hispanic 8 percent

Minneapolis: white 80 percent, black 9 percent, Hispanic 4 percent.

Police racial demographics often do not represent community makeup.  Usually the number of white officers is more than the demographic while black and Hispanic officers come short of matching the real community racial and ethnic demographics.  And all of that should not matter.  By now every American should be able to deal with people as individuals and not with racial, ethnic and socioeconomic prejudices and bigotry.  That is practically rule number one and has been in this country for decades.  That is our community and nation’s expectation.  Yet again another unarmed black man is shot or killed by a police officer who is usually white.  Americans want those incidents—whatever the reason—stopped NOW, and they are no longer willing to sit idly by when practically every day another citizen cell cam shoots a police encounter that in the public’s eye should never have ended in death.

Thought we’d come a long way, baby, until I learned the ERA still hasn’t passed

The ERA is still not law of the land.  Let me rephrase that: The Equal Rights Amendment has never been passed into law.  Can anyone believe this in the year 2020, the 21st century, our most equalizing and open-minded time to date in American history, this era of modern reasonable women-can-work-any-job (except U.S. President)?  I’m … I’m … speechless.

Nevertheless.  Perhaps given our post-feminist society—where men can stay home and raise the kids, where same sex couples can marry and adopt children, where the wife may earn more than her husband and no one cares, where women can apply for any job and run businesses and corporations—we’ve all just settled down and assumed women had the same rights as men under U.S. law.  Isn’t sex discrimination illegal?  The Equal Rights Amendment, which dates back in similar proposed legislation to the 1920s, would ensure women shall have equal rights anywhere in the U.S.  Well, as the ERA’s most famous opponent Phyllis Shlafly would say, doesn’t the business world already provide this by now?  Everyone supports equal rights for women.  So why has the ERA been so damn hard to pass into law?  Ladies, follow the men.

And by men, I mean our worldwide male-dominated cultures and societies since the beginning of time, our man-centered religions and education, our ancient family structures that dictate men are providers and women bear the children while cooking and cleaning simultaneously.  With the realization that the ERA has remained in limbo for decades, we can clearly see this old worn-out sexist stereotype still exists among our equally old and worn-out congressmen and Mr. Man senators.  Maybe since 2018 with the largest number of women to date voted into U.S. Congress, the ERA soon will be the law it should have been (and many Americans thought it already was especially by now).

The ERA mystique

Somewhere between the saying credited to our nation’s sexiest feminist, Gloria Steinem, the one that goes “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle,” and the equally deadpan depiction of marriage credited to the feminist movement’s founder Betty Friedan, that for women marriage is at best a “comfortable concentration camp,” lies the mystical entwinement of the sexes.  Men used to be oblivious to women feeling any other way than happy and content being married and having children and raising them and tutoring them and driving them to their activities and cooking and cleaning and grocery shopping and sewing and running household errands and managing the home and yards.  Whose life wouldn’t be fulfilled?     

In 1972, I proclaimed myself a women’s libber.  I was 10 years old and told everyone I knew.  Mom didn’t mind, probably cheered me on.  In my neighborhood, my mother was the only woman who worked.  She was a teacher.  She also grew up with nine brothers.  Shoot, Carol Burnett performed skits as a loud-mouthed bossy women’s libber on her comedy show every Saturday night.  Loretta Lynn sang The Pill, and I understood the sentiment: Women don’t want to be pregnant all their lives.  Cher and Streisand and every woman in show biz proclaimed they, too, were women’s libbers on the Mike Douglas and Merv Griffin shows every weekday afternoon.  Then there was TV’s Maude which Mom and I watched every Monday night.  A women’s libber was the thing to be.  We weren’t about to return to the old days of staying home with the children, not going to college, not having a career, not earning our own money, not feeling free.

Then something really strange happened in my family.  We started going to church.  Not just any church but a fundamentalist one.  To a young women’s libber, a gal who had drive and ambition and wasn’t gonna let a man hold me back, the cultural whiplash was mind blowing.  The church taught that women are to help and serve their husbands; their place in the home is to be a supportive silent adoring companion; they do, too, want to have children; they shouldn’t work or have a career if it interferes with the home and family.  And the church used a lot of Bible to prove this way of life, of coupling, of family, of God’s intention. 

But, I was a women’s libber.  I had all these goals and plans.  Getting married and having babies was not my priority at least until my late 20s or 30s.  In sermons, the women’s lib movement would come up as a deal with the devil to break up the family home.  What’s right is women should be married and should be mothers.  This was the 1970s, and divorce was becoming very common.  Were divorced women going against God if they worked, had to work, and maintain an apartment while raising their kid or kids?  They usually had custody.  The church had life figured out.  Women in that predicament should pray for a husband.  It was the only way she would be truly happy.

The church also taught that the National Organization for Women was anti-God and run by a bunch of lesbians.  (Like that even mattered.)  Feminists have no place in God’s church.  Wow wee.  This was gonna be a personal problem for little ol’ me, Ms. Independent.     

Needless to say, the church supported Ronald Reagan in the 1980 election, initiating the Reagan Revolution to return to a 1950s’ America of which I only knew from black-and-white TV reruns.  As a young adult woman, I split and went to a secular college where the female professors were indeed feminists, and the older sisters enlightened us young women and men about how far back and how deeply entrenched the male hierarchy reached, even brainwashing females into living lives that were not their own.   That was all I needed to hear.  Live your own life.  Speak your own mind.  Think for yourself.  I was restored to my women’s libber mindset.  That was the real me.  Still is.

Take it from here

The push to pass the ERA in the 1970s was the subject of a TV series called Mrs. America, with the theme song from the disco era, A Fifth of Beethoven, instead of the women’s movement’s actual theme song during the early ’70s, I am Woman.  Guess that song couldn’t have been modernized by one of today’s female artists.  Each episode focused on the most famous women who came to national prominence during the ERA fight, especially anti-feminist Phyllis Schlafly.  She I remember.  Conservatives and fundamentalists would have supported her wholeheartedly.  Good woman, dutiful wife and together homemaker, at her heart she was just as much a women’s libber as the rest of us.  She was blessed with help supervising her six kids and cooking and housecleaning.  Mrs. Schlafly (and you better have called her that) went around the nation speaking against the ERA, claiming the amendment would destroy the family unit and the very fabric of American society.  She linked the ERA and feminism to an ungodly communistic socialistic revolution that would make men and women totally equal (asexual?), where gender roles would be blurred, men would raise children, more women would not have children, and young women would be drafted to fight wars alongside men.  None of this was the language or intent of the ERA, which premise is about equal pay for equal work and equal opportunity for jobs—something everyone believes in 2020, and we have for decades.

Mrs. Schlafly was a formidable opponent and had millions of supporters especially from the Moral Majority.  The ’70s feminists were unprepared for the America I knew, mindsets that for women uphold traditional family values no matter what the circumstances like death of a husband, abuse or divorce.  This is the America, and it’s most of the country, that Reagan knew and so does Trump.  Mrs. Schlafly’s final book, released after her death, called on conservatives to consider supporting Trump.  This enormous gap between traditionalists and feminists somehow continues to exist today no matter how … laughable.  Many marriages end in divorce.  Many women have children without marriage.  Many men are OK with it.  The law had to get involved to make deadbeat dads pay child support.  The Reagan Revolution did one thing to tilt Americans toward accepting feminist ideals, however: Most women had to start working because the economy was so bad.  The Leave it to Beaver family was in the past, and every woman (and man) in American knew it.

After all these decades, time in which I grew from a tomboy to a career woman to an aging though wiser female, the ERA may get a federal vote after the 2020 election if a Democrat is elected President and more Democrats are elected to the U.S. Senate.  As it stands now, the current Senate has no intention of even entertaining the thought of passing the silly old ERA given all the nation’s other problems.  But Americans, women and men, and our society have changed, permanently and at least for half of us for the better.  There’s no putting Jeannie back in her bottle.

International Federation of Journalists honors slain, assaulted reporters (for reporting news some people don’t want the world to know)

More than 1,000 journalists have been killed since 2009.  Last year the most dangerous country for journalists was not somewhere in the Middle East but right in our own hemisphere: Mexico with 10 intentional murders of reporters.  The International Federation of Journalists, based in Belgium, has been keeping tabs of journalists killed on the job or for being a reporter.  Annually the IFJ presents a public document called Roll Call, honoring and naming all working media people killed because of their profession.

During 2019 there were 49 deaths of media personnel “killed for reporting on abuse of power, corruption and crime,” according to the IFJ report.  Some journalists were killed among the crowds when a terrorist bomb exploded.  Many of the deceased journalists were targeted for reporting the news of nations in political and social turmoil, last year involving 18 countries.  Latin America had the highest death toll with 18 killings.

The IFJ also keeps tabs on escalating violence against journalists which last year was more than a hundred substantiated cases and dozens of harassment and media interference.  One positive outcome in the report was the recent guilty verdict for the 2009 deaths of 32 journalists during the Philippines’ Mindanao massacre.

A few of the journalists murdered in 2019—including targeted attacks, bomb attacks and crossfire—were:

Lyra McKee, 29, shot while covering riots at the Creggan housing estate in Londonderry, Northern Ireland, by a gunman shooting at police;

Norma Sarabia Garduza, who covered violence in Huimanguillo, a city in Tabasco, Mexico, shot by two men on a motorbike after she arrived home.  Because of threats, she had no longer included her byline on articles;

Hodan Nalayeh, 43, Somali journalist killed by a suicide attack.

Of the 49 journalists and media personnel killed last year, 18 were in the Americas. In Mexico journalists were killed on Feb. 2, Feb. 11, Feb. 20, May 2, May 16, June 11, July 30, Aug. 2 and Aug. 24.

The rest of the global figures were:

12 in Asia & the Pacific

9 in Africa

8 in the Arab world and Middle East

2 in Europe.

“Across the globe, media workers are killed, jailed and harassed simply for exercising their rights to free expression as enshrined in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, to inform the public,” according to IFJ’s Roll Call.  In Europe alone last year, the IFJ investigated 137 “serious violations of press freedom including nearly 80 cases of violations of the safety and physical integrity of journalists.”  Most of the European scenarios were in France (the yellow vest protests) and Spain (the Catalan uprising).

“Journalists have the right to work in safety, especially in conflict zones,” according to the IFJ Roll Call, “and failure to do so deprives societies of access to reliable information about events affecting their lives and undermines their ability to contribute to end the conflict.”

For more information, check the IFJ’s website at http://www.ifj.org.

Mental health and mental illness go hand in hand in family and work relations

Truly there would be a reason to go mad were it not for music.

                                                                                 Tchaikovsky

Still homebound during the pandemic, to pass the time I’ve been watching movies about mental illness … then I realized May is Mental Health Month.  A couple of thought-provoking movies I studied were Grey Gardens and Mad to be Normal.  As a woman growing older and realizing the inevitable decline, I’ve avoided the original Grey Gardens documentary about a once wealthy elderly mother and her middle-aged daughter living together in poverty and filth yet within the confines of their once splendid beachfront home in the cozy enclave of East Hampton, New York.

So, I watched the more interesting narrative film version Grey Gardens, starring Jessica Lange as Big Edie and Drew Barrymore as Little Edie.  The transformation by hair and body makeup of the two women is shockingly realistic.  Then there’s their phenomenal acting.  The famous reversal-of-fortune saga made international news in the early 1970s because the women are kin to Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis.  Big Edie is the nickname for Edith Bouvier Beale, a beloved aunt of the former First Lady.  Big Edie was the sister of Jackie’s father.  Little Edie was an older cousin of Jackie. 

The interesting storyline features Big Edie’s flamboyant parties at her Grey Gardens estate in the 1930s.  Her husband, a New York businessman, argues with his spoiled wife about the times in which they are living, an economic depression.  He had to cut his staff including house servants, yet Big Edie parties on, maintaining the center of attention with a pianist on hand and her adequate singing and dancing.  Her talent was not important, just her need to entertain, a trait her daughter inherited.  The two sing and soft shoe Tea for Two to delight party guests.  When Mr. Beale divorces his wife, she is left with a financial pittance.  A decade later, her grown sons beg her to sell the house and property and move to Florida, which delights Little Edie, who has been living alone with her mother for years.  Nothing doing, Big Edie is emphatic about never leaving Grey Gardens. 

Years go by.  The home is dilapidated and the women unkempt.  They allow numerous cats to reside inside and do not fight off raccoons who leave trails of dookie logs throughout the house.  Their phone, electricity and water have been shut off.  The city condemned the property.  The grocer refused deliveries until they pay their account.  Still, Big and Little Edie stay day after day, night after night, decade after decade.  They live mainly in a bedroom quarters with two twin beds.  We are left to imagine life in a run-down house with no water or lights, no food except cat chow, no refrigeration: just the fresh ocean breeze and the calm constant rhythm of waves against the shore.  When a news photographer comes out to sneak a story, the women welcome him inside.  They want the world to see how they live.  The photo spread goes worldwide.  Then Jackie O shows up.  [The real story is her sister showed up after the photos and a headline implying Jackie O lives it up while her destitute family lives in squalor.]  Jackie almost throws up from the smell when entering the home.  The Edies offer her paté and tea which she refuses.  Little Edie is jealous about how her younger cousin’s life turned out so fabulously, jet setting with the rich and famous.  The next day, a work crew tows off the junked car, removes weathered furniture and ruined rugs despite elderly Big Edie’s angry protests, and slaps fresh paint on the walls.  Still the house is in horrible shape though maybe smells better but for a while.  Months later a documentary crew asks Big and Little Edie permission to film their lives in Grey Gardens.  The film directors obviously wanted to portray the tragedy of two aging destitute women who cannot maintain their home and how society should help people in such dire predicaments.  At the home viewing, Little Edie is so proud to have been a part of what she called a work of art while Big Edie smiles and is satisfied with the product.  She dies a couple years later and only then does Little Edie leave Grey Gardens to perform a nightclub act in Greenwich Village.  She refused to sell Grey Gardens unless the new owner vowed never to demolish the home.

Watching Grey Gardens, either the documentary or the Lange/Barrymore movie, the issue of mental illness comes to mind.  Millions of viewers ponder how anyone can live in such squalor and stay for decades.  No water, electricity, phone, money, food.  How?  Why?  Recently the women, both deceased, have been studied in retrospect with psychologists theorizing they may have had Asperger’s syndrome.  That would explain how they could continue to remain in a dilapidated home without essentials—and never realize or mind the stench.  Asperger’s is a unique mental condition in that there are various levels for functioning within society and alone.  Sometimes individuals with Asperger’s do not react the same way as a majority of people, a society, would to circumstances or conditions, even to other people’s facial expressions of sorrow, pain, happiness or anger.  That stubborn streak to remain in an inhabitable home come hell or high water, the putrid odor, unsanitary bathroom, no medical care, little food, allowing wild animals and too many cats to live indoors.  They never sought help or repeatedly sought help.  They refused a viable solution by their closest family.  The two women spoke of being ‘in love’ with Grey Gardens.  And they never saw their beloved home as the dangerous place it had become especially to them, the only two people in the world who wanted to remain in their estate by the sea.

Unlocking a troubled mind

In Mad to be Normal, I learned of psychologist R.D. Laing and his unconventional lifestyle and highly controversial therapies.  In the 1960s his book, The Divided Self: An Existential Study in Sanity and Madness, was considered required reading along with On the Road by hipsters and Baby Boomers.  Laing’s premise was that the mentally ill should not be controlled by drugs or shock treatment (very common prior to a few key 1970s’ movies instigating societal change in compassionate treatment for the chronically disobedient or the suicidal and depressed).  He suggested the mentally ill should not be turned into ‘us’ but allowed to live and participate in society on their own terms.  Mental illness is a personal, individual condition—and nothing more.  He would believe the state of one’s mental faculties is a private affair and certainly not to be determined by society.

But.

There is the issue of violence.  And that’s society’s concern, someone who is a danger to himself and/or others.  Not so with Laing, as the movie biopic featured life in his East London hangout for anyone with mental illness along the catatonic, neurotic, schizophrenic and psychotic realms.  Anyone was welcome.  Each housemate had his or her own bedroom with a door they could open and close or lock.  They were free to roam outside alone and into the public. 

Laing also was keen on using LSD to treat schizophrenia.  Our own psychiatric establishment used LSD in the pre-illegal daze of the 1950s and early ’60s especially in Beverly Hills.  Laing dosed himself along with clients and took numerous trips into the inner recesses of his mind.  Those who’ve experimented with LSD swear it opens their consciousness.  In 1966 LSD became illegal as a dangerous narcotic.

In exploring mental health, I have read and re-read the book The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout.  Dr. Stout, a Harvard psychologist, wrote the book so the public would know how to determine if someone is a sociopath and how to avoid them.  She presented several real-life stories about the common attitudes and behaviors of sociopaths, even asserting a large number of the U.S. population may very well be sociopaths, as many as one in five Americans.  It’s that common.  Other societies have few citizens who are sociopaths, the author claimed, linking the statistic to older and ancient civilizations who’ve learned to rely on and trust their fellow man and not care so much about ‘getting ahead’ or ‘getting mine’ as our capitalistic foundation promotes to survive and thrive.  Ours is an individualistic society.  We do glorify the wealthy entrepreneur and celebrity.  It is kinda sick when you think about it, and the fascination starts in childhood and lasts throughout adulthood until some wisdom about the grand scheme of things kicks in.

The book was written to help people deal with a sociopath in work, family or romantic relationships.  Criminologists and psychologists deem sociopathy as incurable.  As I read about individuals who were sociopaths, in incidents told to the psychiatrist by family and former employees who’d been hurt by them, I realized similar traits in a few of my former bosses: pitting one employee against another and then sitting back to watch the fight or fallout; the coldness; the aloofness; the unpredictable disposition, one moment wildly angry then the next rational and calm.  An unstable personality is the first clue of a potential conflict, that person who says one thing and does another, someone who is not a straight shooter.

Recently I researched how to work with someone with mental illness, whether a sociopath or a diagnosed condition requiring medication and psychotherapy.  What I found is: It’s our problem not theirs.  People who believe themselves to have sound mental health must deal with real mental issues every day.

The book recommends several measures employees and others can take to avoid being sucked into a sociopath’s mind game.  One is simply quit the job or leave the relationship.  Another is to avoid sharing information about yourself because what the sociopath wants to know most of all is our greatest fear.  And for me that fear came true, and the sociopath bosses knew it, sensed it, without me saying a word.  Despite miserable employee-boss relations, I kept returning to work, fell on my sword when criticized, worked harder, arrived earlier, stayed later, never missed a day.  A good sociopath could figure out what really mattered to me: my job.  So the jobs were abruptly taken from me.  I was shown the door, kicked to the curb.  Fortunately, the majority of my past employers have been kind and … emotionally stable.  No mind games, no sudden immediate closed-door conferences to discuss presumed or alleged misdeeds, and no bouts of extreme anger and bullying followed by a honeymoon phase of appreciation and work-related praise.

Dr. Laing is right about how we all need to rethink dealing with the mentally ill.  They are a small segment of our population, even fewer who pose a real danger to us.  But we’re frightened.  We’re not psychologists, and we don’t want to deal with another person’s mental illness.  But the research I’ve done proves one thing: When it comes to the mentally ill, we are the ones with the problem.  We are the ones who must figure out some way to deal with another person who does not fit into our idea of normal.  The mentally ill are ill and therefore in need of not necessarily our help but our understanding.  Everyone is different.  Everyone has a unique backstory, sometimes blocked due to severe emotional pain if ever remembered.  The best we can do is remain calm, cool and collected and maintain our own sanity.

Pandemic overblown by wealthy powers & national media’s nothing-but-coronavirus coverage

April 2020 will go down in history as one extremely long painful monotonous nightmare—more so in places like New York City than all the thousands of cities and locales elsewhere in the vast territory of the United States of America, but for all of us the worst financial crisis of our lifetimes.  Why?  Why did everybody have to stay home and either work online or not work at all?  Health experts predicted a deadly pandemic for which American hospitals and cities were unprepared.  By year’s end 2019, all eyes were on China’s clandestine handling of the fast-spreading COVID-19 or the novel coronavirus.  Americans thought mistakenly that it couldn’t happen here.  The entire U.S. economy shut down to save some lives and prevent for the most part big-city hospitals from being overrun with the latest contagion?  That is exactly what ended up happening—except without all the drama across the nation, just in NYC and similar huge metropolises, congested American cities like the ones we’re used to watching in TV dramas.

President Donald Trump, in a total about-face given his usual response to zig while government zags, ultimately decided to go with ‘the science’ and agreed to the slow down and eventual shut down of every aspect of American work in commerce, education and government save ‘essential’ services.  Notice all those in power—including corporations who pay for the daily TV ads promoting how we still need to eat restaurant meals or how our isolation has brought us together through the internet and our devices (not a single reference to old-fashioned phone calls)—perceive a month or two of personal lost income as no big deal, even the President.  They have the resources to survive a financial setback.  But not the American people, the vast majority living paycheck to paycheck, every dollar relied upon to balance a monthly budget of mortgage or rent, groceries, medications, insurance, utilities, bills and life’s incidentals.   

And the President thinks Americans who finally started protesting at their state capitols and city halls have cabin fever?  No, sir, they are people millionaires and billionaires do not understand.  Americans actually want to pay their bills.  Their greatest fear is losing their home, cars and everything.  The stay-home-stay-safe mandate was the worst mistake made by government at all levels.  Americans were not asked what they thought, if they were willing to risk their health and their families if they continued working during a pandemic. Americans would have answered, “Hell, yeah!  Let’s do it!  Anything to earn a paycheck.”  Hospital administrators and virus scientists sounded the alarm of a pandemic that potentially could kill millions of Americans and make tens of millions sick.  But that is not what happened, and it is not what is going to happen.  We see that now.

Along for the ride

The mass media went along with presenting the practical advice and educated assumptions from medical science circles to practice common-sense health guidelines to avoid the coronavirus (stay home, wash hands, avoid crowds).  In spotlighting what the medical experts have to say about avoiding this illness, cable and even local TV have presented nothing but coronavirus news 24-hours-a-day.  Fine for the first two weeks but then overkill and by now unnecessary.  Just today one of the top cable news networks included a non-coronavirus news story, this one about a missing woman.  Life, the good and bad, did not stop just because of a pandemic.  But to hear the media tell it, it did.  The national news, made up of professional journalists, have covered every angle, the same angles, of the pandemic ad nauseum.

But one angle the big-time media missed goes along with their failure to predict Donald Trump would win the presidency.  This time they missed the American workers’ perspective during a pandemic, which is not an uncommon health crisis, not our first rodeo.  Americans want to go back to work, go back to earning money.  Hell, they never wanted to stop working.  Americans did not want to stay home to avoid getting sick or perchance infect their loved ones or others.  If asked, they would do anything to keep a job: work six feet apart, wear masks, permit temperature checks, go directly home after work, even accept a lower wage and shorter hours especially if temporary.  By now a couple hundred million Americans are realizing their rights were trampled even if temporarily and with the best of intentions.  The lawsuits will come as America is the most litigious nation in the world.  People will sue over their child’s missed education, their family’s missed income and inability to pay bills, even their misdiagnoses whether positive or negative coronavirus or their other infections and ailments sidelined due to the red alert for COVID-19.

Hindsight is 20/20.  While a world-class nation like Sweden carried on sans panic by allowing citizens to choose sheltering at home or continue working during the pandemic, the USA was caught pants down with no pandemic preparation (sorely lacking abundant medical supplies, respiratory equipment and emergency field hospitals).  No, instead, for some convoluted reason, our nation chose the worst-case scenario to close the entire economy, half of which is from small businesses, and send out billions of dollars in stimulus checks and business loans.  Why?  Why was the greatest, strongest, most prosperous nation on earth caught off guard and ill-prepared to carry on during another pandemic?  The national media and talking heads covered that already.  And it doesn’t help for President Trump to lead daily briefings on the pandemic with antagonistic quips to national reporters there to cover it.

We got it.  We’re in heap big trouble.  We’re reminded every day on the news and online.  Tens of millions of American workers have applied for unemployment because their jobs aren’t coming back.  Some financial experts predict an economic depression.  Many small businesses are closed for good not because of the pandemic but because of how government handled the pandemic: convincing everyone to stay home for the sake of their loved ones and forcing everyone to stop the spread.

Well, the daily numbers indicate a job well done, best that could be expected, much better actually.  This pandemic is mild compared to the Spanish flu of 1918 which took the lives of 50 million worldwide and in the U.S. less than one million dead.  Even a hundred years ago, Americans during that pandemic had to wear masks to avoid contracting the flu.  That was fair.  And they kept working, too.  Maybe the spread and death were high because everyone continued working.  Times were so different then.  People didn’t need much.  Probably everybody had no health insurance.  Life was less complex.  And there was no flu vaccine, still today only used by less than half the U.S. population.

Compared to today, it’s not why but how, with all our collective intelligence in this 21st century high tech age, did we go off the rails in dealing with a pandemic?  It’s bat crazy from the top down.  And that is what all the protests are about.  Americans are not foolish or stupid about health, new viruses and pandemics.  If you’re gonna survive in this country, hell on the planet, you take chances every day.  The Swedes understand about building a tolerance to a new virus, that life is survival of the fittest and some will die but not everyone, not the majority.  Americans are willing to do whatever it takes to work and apparently to just survive.  The way this turned out is why so many Americans, 70 percent without a college education, are suspicious of the highly educated and distrustful of the government.  Lots of lessons here all the way around.